My Alt-ASME list of women bylines2 comments

April 3rd, 2012

This post is a really elongated tweet , written in haste, because I should be doing other things but can’t shut my mouth (or laptop) until I get this off my chest.

The ASME awards shafted women writers. (cue links to read many blogs and articles to come).

So who would I have nominated?

Jill Lepore, for several features, but if I had to choose one it would be this

Emily Nussbaum for her columns & commentary in either/both New York or New Yorker.

Ruth Franklin for columns and commentary in The New Republic.

Laura Miller for columns and commentary for Salon.

I’ll post more anon; maybe you will add some names/articles, too.


The Difference Between Being Rejected And Getting A No: A Gender Issue?8 comments

March 26th, 2012

I’ve been AWOL from this blog for awhile, mainly because I’ve been having fun and working hard with my How To Pitch class.

But today I want to make a few notes about rejection. These are inspired by my VIDA posts, my subsequent online class and some conversations I’ve had recently. I am developing a theory about the difference between being turned down and being rejected.

Two stories:

A woman friend of mine works at a Very Prestigous National Magazine. She sits in on the weekly pitch meetings with editors. She notes that some women bring up ideas, have them shot down, and then stop bringing up ideas and the weeks go on. The men bring up ideas, have them shot down, and then keep bringing up ideas.

A woman senior editor at the Very Big Publication wants to do some freelancing. She pitches. She does not receive any response–just silence. She interprets silence as rejection. She gets discouraged about her ideas. She decides not to keep pitching.

Point of these stories? Women take a no as a rejection, something that hurts, and they take rejection hard. Theyare quicker to interpret signals that could mean a host of things as rejection as well. This may play a role in the completely absurd gender inequity we see in (what I’ll call) “Prestige Publishing.”

One way to offset the sting of rejection is to be horribly arrogant and consider the rejectors the idiots, not you. To just say screw you, get angry and prove them wrong by getting an acceptance elsewhere. Perhaps we should have more arrogance training courses?

Or maybe we all need to share rejection stories, so as to depersonalize them?

Hey, I have one! I recently did something I had sworn off: I wrote a “sample” story for a prospective blogging gig. The job would be to write about a topic I enjoy, once a week, for a decent rate. I felt pretty confident the sample would end up running (and thus I’d get paid for it, as the editor said would likely happen), so I wrote off my “never write for free” pledge.

I had lots of conversations, on the phone and via email, with the editor–all very friendly, and included some exchanges that went beyond the job at hand to colleagues we have in common, links she sent me related to my book research etc. So I was confident  this was a pro forma trial and the gig was mine. I wrote the piece.

The editor responded with a generic: “Given our needs we won’t be able to work with you at this time. Thanks and I’ll keep your information on file.” No comments on the piece, no explanation.

I was pissed. With myself. I beat myself up: I had phoned in the story in, I should have found better sources, I should have picked a better topic, etc.

Then I added insult to injury: I got pissed at myself for blaming myself instead of getting mad at her. Really, no explanation? Really, that cold of a brush off?

Then I got angry: I sent her a note asking for more explanation and a kill fee for the piece. She hasn’t replied.

I’m still feeling a mixture of anger and rejection. But I know the rejection is misplaced: I should just be angry.

So I keep learning how to not be rejected. Which is a different thing than having others turn down my work. So do being told no and being rejected need to become different categories in my mind–one solely professional, the other emotional?


More How To PitchNo comments yet

March 10th, 2012

….I’m offering the How To Pitch course again from May 4-18. Interested? See the previous post for details.


VIDA Continua: Step-By-Step Guide On How To Pitch2 comments

March 4th, 2012

How do you pitch the publications listed in the VIDA count, or any publication for that matter?

I live in Cleveland–far from any literati metropole. I started freelancing when I was an academic, and nobody I knew within academia knew how this world works. I am not well-connected with friends who work at big pubs, nor do my parents know x or y editor. In other words, just about all of my publications have come from cold pitching unknown-to-me editors.

It took me awhile to figure it all out. (You can read a bit about how I did it here). Here are some steps anyone can take to get their ideas to editors. Will it work? Who knows. But hopefully this information will clarify what can be an overly opaque process:

1.) Go to the website of the publication you want to pitch. Look for “about us” or “contact us” or “writers’ guidelines” or submission requirements” or some such. Sometimes that information is useful. Sometimes it is more of a screen to cut down on hundreds of unwanted emails (understandably). I’ve never pitched the Boston Review, though I’d like to, because the tone, response time and information on this page dissuades me.

2.) Ask and look around for more information. Here’s another example. I have never written for The New York Review of Books, thought I would love to, because I have no idea how to approach them (and they even reviewed my book!). I haven’t found  any networks, friends, connections, market guides, etc. to help me. So if I wanted to pitch them I’d look at their masthead. Then I’d choose a senior editor, maybe an assistant editor. I’d put their name into the google box, see if I can find an email address. I just did this with one of the senior editors. I didn’t find an email but I did find a twitter address. So I’d follow this person, and if she followed me back I’d DM her asking how to pitch. Would it work? Who knows. I would not take it personally if no one answered a pitch I sent via this sort of blind googling. (And if anyone wants to give me more information about writing for NYRB, or any of the pubs I list below as ones I’d like to write for, I’m all ears. )

3.) Pay the fee to access media bistro’s “How To Pitch” feature or FreelanceSuccess.com or check out the *free* database at the (science oriented) Open Notebook.  If you are a book reviewer, join the NBCC: they provide members with a guide to pitching book reviews, editor info, pay, etc.  that has been invaluable to me. Even if the information is not accurate or up to date, the discussions of how the publications work on these sites are invaluable. In fact, you could teach yourself most of what you need to know about  freelancing works just by reading these websites, their archives, etc. Not all publications are listed, though. NONE of the publications  included in VIDA have “how to pitch” information at media bistro, for instance.

4.) Go to conferences, workshops, or other places where editors show up and explain their processes. (for me, this is usually too expensive or prohibitive due to other commitments. ROI seems low…)

5.) Figure out the email formula for the editor you want to pitch (after reading the masthead, or the bios on the website).  This is not too hard: just sometimes takes lots of googling. All publication will have a consistent email formula, like “Firstnamelastname@nameofpublication.com. If you can find out the formula (google all the name on the masthead or look around the website: you just need to find one person). Then  plug the name of the editor you want to pitch into the formula. I have sometimes used this method to great success (though sometimes with “Undeliverable” failure emails before I got the formula right).

5.) Beyond that, it comes down to networking, asking, magic, luck.
6.) Never take rejection or, more commonly, silence (no response at all) personally.
VIDA pubs
Here’s what I know about the publications in VIDA. I’ve left out a few: trust I know nothing about those.

The Nation: I’d love to write for them. I’ve never seen any writers guidelines other than what is on the website, and I don’t have any contacts. I’d love to learn more.

The Paris Review: I’ve never looked into this, but I’ve also never seen anything about it.

The Atlantic. I did publish a piece in the March 2012 issue. I had been pitching for a few years, to different editors. I got the name of the first editor I pitched from a friend. Then I kept pitching, and was referred to other editors by people there. I haven’t seen any market guides for them. The masthead and email formula aren’t hard to find, though.

Boston Review: see above.

TLS: As with NYRB, Boston Review and The Nation: I’d like to pitch them. Without any public or inside scoops, I have not yet–though I could take my own advice above and do some sleuthing.

Granta: I’ve pitched, and have not received any response. My sense–could be wrong– is that they cultivate writers–they seek out writers rather than respond to pitches.

Harpers: Nothing I’ve seen publicly, but I have found editor emails, pitched, and received responses back. So far, just rejections, but thoughtful and helpful ones. Cross your fingers for me the next one is a yes!

The New Republic: In the TLS, NYRB, Boston Review and The Nation column. I did once DM an assistant editor there, asking how to pitch. She didn’t respond. I should work more on this, as I think their book pages are fantastic and I’d love to write for them.

NYRB: see above

New Yorker: I have found editor emails and sent pitches. Some pitches have gone unresponsed to, some have gained me pleasantly worded rejections.

New York Times Book Review. I’ve received assignments from them via cold pitches to editors.

That’s as far as I can go without giving out information that might upset some of these publications. But if you email me I’ll respond privately and give you more information if I have it.

(p.s. I’m available for individual mentoring/coaching. I’d be happy to run an online course version of this as well, if there’s interest.)


Talk of the Nation, the NYT Op-Ed Page and VIDA6 comments

March 2nd, 2012

Phew! A whirlwind day yesterday: two big events, and I didn’t know either one was going to happen when I woke up:

Yesterday afternoon I was on NPR’s Talk of the Nation and had a debate about spelling, complete with time limitations and bells to cut us off (though I always came in short–probably not good debating practice). You can read the transcript and/or listen to it here.

This morning, I was delighted–so delighted!–to see the fruition of a project I have been working on with my mother–an op-ed about her experiences fighting for women’s rights. Read the op-ed in today’s New York Times. And share it with all your friends! I am so thrilled for my mother (and happy, too, that I could ply some writing and pitching know-how to get her story out there).

Speaking of women’s rights, the VIDA discussion continues. I talk about it here and here. I have had some women take me up on my offer of help, which is gratifying. And I thought the proposed solutions in this piece in The American Prospect make sense, too.